Happy Wednesday. We’re gonna talk today.
Right now, I attend community college. One of my classes is a mandatory, sort of self-actualization, sort of career-planning class. In this class today, we talked about diversity.
Diversity: The beautiful thing that makes the world interesting.
Except apparently not everyone thinks so, as our discussion proved.
Our lesson today was on micro-aggressions. And if you don’t know what that is, here’s the dictionary definition:
“a subtle but offensive comment or action directed at a minority or other nondominant group that is often unintentional or unconsciously reinforces a stereotype: micro-aggressions such as ‘I don’t see you as black.'”
So was this lesson about accepting everything and everyone regardless of your belief system or your culture? NO.
Did just about everyone in the class take it that way? HOLY HELL, YES.
A guy who sits next to me raised his hand and said, “Everyone is offended by everything, it’s all bullshit!”
Do I totally, one hundred percent understand where he’s coming from? Yes I do. But he was so worked up that his face was literally turning red. Like a Santa hat. RED. Our instructor even pointed out that he was getting a little too worked up over the term ‘micro-aggression.’ Nobody blamed him about anything, nobody was saying he had to support every ‘unconventional’ thing that exists here on this lovely earth.
But that’s how he took it. And the main argument was, “Well, why should I have to water down my opinion in order to make someone else comfortable?”
We never really got a good answer, but here’s mine:
YOU DON’T. You don’t have to water anything down. You have an opinion and that is great and totally within your rights. Thinking for yourself is an important life skill. But just hear me out here. The point of this lesson was not to tell you that you should never express your opinion for fear of someone disagreeing with you or being upset by it. The point was to show you that what YOU say has consequences. Usually, those consequences are other people’s feelings and reactions.
So you do not have to change your opinion because it might hurt someone else. But recognizing that people will have a reaction and have a right to have that reaction is important. Vocalizing whatever you feel or think and expecting nobody to be upset about it is ridiculous.
You complain that people are offended and sensitive about everything, but you’re the one whining and complaining all over Facebook about how people are so sensitive and can’t handle differing opinions.
Are you seeing the sense in that? Because I’m not.
Have your opinions. Vocalize them. But don’t expect everyone to agree with you. Don’t get all bent out of shape because someone had a negative reaction to whatever you shared or posted or tweeted or whatever.
Live on, people. I encourage that. I encourage free thinking and different opinions.
I don’t encourage whining like a baby when not everyone agrees with you.
Yikes, soap box done for the day!
And there are MY opinions. Feel free to agree or disagree.
Live ya life.